Friday, March 15, 2019

When thoughts of death wake me...

...in the middle of the night, I come to consciousness sharp.  My body startles like birds buckshotted from branches.  I'm in the dark, husband with parted lips by my side.

And, I'm scared.  I fear death.  I've almost died more times at 34 than most people can boast throughout a lifetime.  I've had cancer twice.  Will this be what ends me?

I think of my last conversations.  Did I tell my husband he is my all?  Did my mom and I say anything meaningful to each other?  Will my sister know what a privilege it was to be her sidekick?  What did I say, and did it convey my love and gratitude correctly?

I tell myself I'm still alive.  Still here now.  This moment of anxiety and dread sponsored by a beating heart.  No one is promised anything else.  It's the same promise I was given before cancer:  You're alive this instant... congratulations!

Minutes tick by.

I think of everything I want for everyone I love.  I hold them in my heart and pray for them.  They are my legacy to this world—everything good I've ever done they helped shape a thousand ways.  I hope they can say the same of me.

Then, there are my favorite memories I keep like a mix-tape:  My first kiss at the airport the day after Christmas, singing to Kitty Wells with my mom, shooting bow and arrow in the barn, family camping trips, the walk of a thousand fireflies.  More things, each something beautiful and irreplaceable.  I focus my mind inside a moment that made me feel most whole or moved me.

By the time I fall asleep again, I'm smiling.

Maybe, by the time my life ends, there will be more mix-tape memories.  Maybe there will be more people I hold so close they smudge the glass of my soul.  Maybe fear is a partition my dreams exist beyond, should I choose to seek them.

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